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Mental Toughness
Part Three
Closing the Door on Fear
Boil it down, and what prevents
us from playing our best tennis is fear. However, it isn't fear of losing
per se that's our undoing. It's something deeper and darker:
ego and self
esteem. We're afraid of being embarrassed, afraid of being seen as a loser
or a failure, afraid we'll lose our rating, afraid we'll let our partners down, afraid our team mates will have a lower opinion of us, afraid we
won't fit in, afraid no one will want to play with us. And, deep and dark
as those apprehensions are, they don't represent the most insidious aspect of
the problem, which is, because everything we fear is other-directed, it's beyond
our control For, even if we play well and win, we won't
necessarily earn the respect and admiration we desire. A team mate could
be standing on the sideline watching you crush your opponent 6-0, 6-0, and say
to herself, "She just got lucky. Her opponent was having an off day."
Is there any way you can play competitive tennis and not
feel fear? Not if a heart beats in your chest. In fact, the fun of
competition comes precisely because we put ourselves at risk of losing. We
step between the lines knowing that, at the finish, only one player or team will
be a winner. If that challenge doesn't get your blood racing, you should
look elsewhere for your thrills. It's why we play the game. The
catch is, our response to this adversity is often apprehension, and if we fear
the result, we don't play well, and it doesn't feel like a game or fun, at all.
So let's say, if you're normal, competition inspires fear.
The question is not defeating fear or even avoiding it, unless you want first to spend the next ten years in India becoming a
sage. The question is,
can you play so that don't let fear take over your game? The answer is
yes, and one of the secrets is in managing the down time between points and
the change-overs, so that your focus is on what you can control: the first
stroke of the next point.
But we're going to start with an even larger
segment of time, the time before the match.
Your Greatest Hits
I don't know if it's still in business, but one of the early
companies involved in improving mental toughness for athletes was called
Sybervision. It built on a common experience, namely, that when we watch
good tennis, we seem to absorb the good qualities and play better, at least for
awhile. Sybervision believed that if you watched pros hitting their
strokes from various angles, in slow motion and in regular time, you could learn
the strokes as well as by actually hitting the ball, and it made video tapes of
all the strokes. But for me, as a coach, one of the company's greatest
contributions was in building the success of a varsity player at
Stanford. They chose the number two guy, purposely. To improve his
game, they created a brief video of the
player's matches, all positive moments: break points that he converted,
service games that he held after coming back from Love-40, passing shots that
captured a set point, handshakes and smiles at the net when he was victorious.
The guy's task was to find a quiet moment before his matches and to watch this
video of his greatest hits. The idea was to create a positive frame of
mind. Instead of the player imagining the worst--fearing a loss, playing
badly, embarrassing himself and letting down his team--the player's job was to
anticipate the possibility of pleasure. He'd felt that pleasure before, not always, of
course, but he'd won; he'd been successful. Could he tap into that emotion and
bring it with him to the court? The answer was yes. The player had a great
season, outstripping everyone's expectations, including his own.
Managing the time before your matches is crucial. It's
your first opportunity to quiet the voice of your fear. And you can do it
by creating your own Reader's Digest version of your greatest hits. Think
back, even to the juniors, and remember those moments. Specifically,
remember the emotion of those moments, the lightness of them, the visceral
pleasure, how quick your feet felt, how relaxed and elastic your muscles and
body felt. Replay those moments in your mind; feel the emotions in your
body. The idea is not to set a standard to which you have to measure up.
Imagining the pleasure of playing well doesn't guarantee that you will.
The point is to create the possibility of playing your best. To do that,
you need to imagine the pleasure of competition before your match, not the negative things
that so easily creep in to our consciousness. Somehow, somewhere, find
five minutes of quiet before your match. Close your eyes, and play your
greatest hits. Open your eyes and smile! You're about to play tennis!
Create a Ritual Between Points
The twenty-five seconds between points provides enough time
for our concentration to get to Mars and back, ample opportunity to hold on to
our anger and frustration over blowing an overhead on the previous point, or to
dread that we're going to blow the lead and lose the match, or both. These
emotions are rooted in self-esteem issues, but what is most obvious about them
is that they are completely out of our control. We sure as hell can't
change the past, and the future--the end of the match--is equally beyond our
grasp. Yet, that's where the mind goes, point after point, match after
match, pissed-off because of our bad play or knee-knocking scared about the
finish, or both.
Managing the time between points and on the change-overs can
keep these negative and fearful thoughts from staking a claim on your
consciousness. To do this, you have to create a ritual during those
intervals that keeps your focus positive and specific to the one thing that you
can control: the first stroke of the next point. Following is my
ritual.
I do it between every point. It's designed to eat up every last second of
the down time betweeen points, denying fear a chance to plant its wicked seeds.
1. Release the emotion of the previous point,
good or bad.
After a point, the first part of my ritual is to distance myself from that
point. If I carry over the emotion from the previous point, I won't be in
the right frame of mind for the next. All players know this syndrome.
We hit an ace and can't wait to step up to the baseline and hit another one.
Except, because we're too excited, we miss the next first serve by a mile.
And the second serve goes into the net. Double fault. In the space
of two points, we've gone from heaven to hell. So, good or bad--if I've
made a put-away or hit an unforced error--I want to get rid of those feelings.
If I've hit an ace, I pump my fist. If I've hit a stupid shot, I may very
well groan in agony. But if I
have played a bad point, I also make sure that I take the time to find something
positive about it (as I wrote about in my previous tip). I only want to hear
a positive voice. But, after that,
I literally turn my back on the net, signaling to myself that the point is over
and I want to prepare for the next one.
I take the racquet out of my
dominant hand and shift it to my left. I want my right arm and hand to begin to
relax. I want my whole body and my mind to relax, to open toward the next point from a calm point of view.
I begin to take deep breaths, through my nose and out through my mouth, bringing
my heart rate down, settling my nerves. Only when I feel calm do I return
my racquet to my right hand, signalling to myself that I'm ready to turn my
attention to the future: the first stroke of the next point.
2. What's the score?
After I've literally turned away from the previous point and calmed down, the
next part of my ritual is to ask myself what the score is.
I want to plan my first stroke, and to do this, I want that stroke to be
commensurate with the score. A score of 30-Love is about as different from Love-30 as
ice cubes to hot asphalt. At 30-Love, if I'm the server, green lights
blink all around my happy head. I can take a chance, maybe swing the serve
out wide, maybe serve hard into the body and take the net. I'm definitely
going to pressure the receiver. But at Love-30, I'm serving to the T, and
I may very well take something off the serve to get that first one in. I'm
definitely not going to give the returner an angle and have him go for a winner because
he's got the green lights blinking around his head. I'm going to
play a high percentage point if I can, be patient and wait for my opportunity,
and that starts with a high percentage first serve.
If I'm the receiver, I ask myself exactly the same question:
what's the score? My plan, as a receiver, must be more provisional than
as a server. After all, I don't know what kind of ball I'm going to get to
hit, whether it's going to be a forehand or a backhand, or whether it's going to be
in a good position to strike. But I'm certainly planning the kind of
stroke and the kind of point I want to play. At Love-30, I'm going after
the return, especially on second serve. I may try a quick strike
down-the-line, get my drive on top of the server in a hurry. I may even
chip and charge. But if I have something I can hit, I'm going to be
aggressive. However, at 30-Love, I'm playing a high percentage point.
I'll take some pace off and usually hit cross-court, giving myself a target to
the longest leg of the court over the lowest portion of the net. I'm not
going to play passively or in fear of making a mistake, but I'm going to get the
ball in play and work the point.
Once I've planned the first stroke and I know what kind of
point I'm going to try and play, I step up to the baseline and look at the
court. I try to feel a positive emotion. I may even smile to myself.
Note: The above was written from a
singles player's point of view. However, it's the same in doubles,
although each player should act as part of a team as well as an individual.
Each player needs to get rid of the previous point, calm down and ready herself
for the next point. Between points, the pros give each other a high five,
whether the point played in their favor or not. Then they talk, and they
aren't making lunch plans. The serving team needs to be clear where the
serve is being placed, whether there should be a planned poach, who's covering
the lob off the return, etc. The receiving team needs to know where the
return is going, if the receiver is going to try and pass down the alley, lob,
drop shot or drive deep cross-court. Once the plans are made, commensurate
with the score, the team is ready to play.
3. Visualize the Plan
Once I've planned my first stroke,
I'm almost ready to play, but not quite. The next, and final step of my
ritual is to visualize what I've just planned. I picture the stroke in my
mind. If I've planned a serve out wide, I see that. And, if I'm the
server, I also see where I'm going to be after the serve. If I'm following
that serve to net, I see that. If I'm staying back, I picture myself
behind the baseline. As a receiver, if I've planned a high percentage
cross-court return, I picture that placement.
This juncture is critical to my emotions. I want to
make a transition between the thinking part of my mind (my words) and the
imaginative part of my mind, for it's the latter that controls the body.
Tennis players are famous, or infamous, for talking to themselves. As I've
mentioned in another tip, usually this talk is negative, but there's another
problem with it. The left side of the brain, which controls language,
doesn't control the movement of your body. You can yell at yourself to
watch the ball or take the racquet back earlier all day long and your body
literally can't listen. Your body, though, can "listen" to an image.
Think about learning a dance move. You wouldn't use words to tell yourself
what to do. You'd look carefully at the movement and then imitate it.
This ability to move between your words and an image is crucial to competitive
success. You need the rational part of your mind, your words, to diagnose problems, plan solutions, consider the score and the kind of
point you want to play, that first stroke. But once you've done that, turn
off the words. Create a picture. See that first stroke.
Once I've visualized that first stroke, I'm ready to play.
I serve, or, if I'm the receiver, I start moving my feet in anticipation of the
return. I'm there. Because by the time I've taken the three
steps of my ritual, I've eaten every second of the down time between points, and
not an instant of it was spent being negative or fearful. There wasn't an
opportunity for that poison to get into my head.
Create a Ritual for the Change-Overs
If you can get to Mars and back in the twenty-five seconds
between points, you can leave the universe during the ninety seconds of the
change-over and never be found again. Some players don't want to sit down
on the change-over because of this. They want to hurry to the other side
of the court and keep playing, hoping they can run faster than their fear which
they believe will overtake them if they take a rest. Don't be silly.
Take a load off. Catch your breath. The change-over provides, first
and foremost, an opportunity for your body to recover, and in case you haven't
noticed, the more tired you are, the more difficult it is to concentrate and
stay focused.
1. Tend to Your Flesh
There's a reason you bought that ginormous tennis bad and stuffed it to the
gills. Now's the time to whip it out, especially those things that can
refresh your body. If it's a warm day, use the first portion of the
change-over to cool off. Get in the shade, if you can. Get a cool
cloth on the back of your neck and on the inside of your wrists. Take a
cold drink of water or a sports drink. Towel off. If your energy is
fading, take a bite of an energy bar or a banana. Being good to yourself
physically can go a long way in keeping your energy up and your attitude up.
Consider the change-over your own ninety-second spa treatment.
2. Take the Time To See the Big Picture
Change-overs are a great time to see the match from a larger perspective than is
often possible during the points. Ask yourself if your strategy
is working. If you've been attacking your opponent's backhand, are you
still getting unforced errors? Are there any changes in your opponent?
Is he angry at himself for a double-fault? Can you attack his second
serve, get him angrier and make him commit more double faults? Are you up
a break or down a break? Do you need to play steady or attack?
Bottom line--what's your game plan? We often lose matches because we run out of
ideas. The player that's got another card up his sleeve, another strategy,
is still in the match, even if he's lost the first set and is down a break in
the second. Don't leave the change-over without a plan and the commitment to
it. It's okay if it doesn't succeed. Make another plan on the next
change-over or right in the middle of the game, if necessary. Once you
practice planning strategy, once it's part of your match ritual, you'll do it
more easily and intuitively. Like they say, the mind is too good a thing
to waste.
3. Leave the Change-Over Feeling Positive
Once you've pampered yourself, cooled down, toweled off, tasted a cold drink and
maybe a snack, you've told yourself that you're physically in the match for the
long haul. Once you've committed to a game plan, you've told yourself that
you're ready for the challenge. Now comes the time for your pep talk.
What are the key words or phrases that pump you up? What image can you
conjure that makes you feel buoyant and happy? What does it take to make
you feel positive? I love the way Nadal sprints from the sideline into the
court, like he can't wait to hit the ball, to play. You can see it in his
face, how he bounces on his toes. Your task, should you choose to accept
it, dear player, is to find words or images that inspire you. Use the
change-over to change you into a positive player. When you stand up from
that bench, feel good. The match is right there in front of you.
Note: If you're a member of a doubles
team, you'd utilize the change-over similarly. Tend to your physical
needs. Relax. Say whatever you need to hear to bring yourself to a
positive state of mind. Then consult with your partner, find out if he has
any insights that might help win, communicate your own thoughts, settle on a
strategy as a team. When you stand, give your partner a high-five or say
whatever words he needs to hear that you know pump him up. He should do
the same for you. Feel good! Go get 'em!
Create a Ritual That Works For You
My ritual between points and on the change-over is mine, and
is only meant as a suggestion; I don't know whether it will work for you.
To create your own ritual, customize it to your rhythm of play. Graf got
from point to point like she was late catching an airplane; she couldn't wait to
play. Sharapova gets from point to point as if she's considering the
entire universe; she takes the maximum allotted time. Do whatever works,
but find a way to shut the door on the voice of your fear. It has absolutely no
place on the tennis court, no matter how seriously you take competitive play.
You can control those thoughts and voices, but you have to practice it and
dedicate yourself to it. Play! It's hard, but it's so
much fun!
c Keith Shein
Head Tennis Professional
Priory Tennis Club
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Mental Toughness Part Four
Setting Goals
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